Life isn’t always rosy as a parent. There are days when your kids are annoyed with you, and no matter what you do or say, they’re basically hating your guts (and they’re 6!). While we tend to post positive status updates on facebook and twitter, do people really want to know these things?
My 6 year old called me “Terrible” yesterday. He’s a difficult kid, a lot of the time. He’s incredibly smart and has his issues (low muscle tone, ADHD, barely eats, tempermental, gets rough with the baby, hates doing homework, tantrums often, loses focus). I adore him, but I’ll admit we are both stubborn and often lock horns. But he’s never called me terrible before (and the wacky thing is that I don’t even know why – my husband thinks he was trying to get attention).
We were at my father’s house and we leaving to take him and his 3 year old sister bike riding, while my father watched the baby. I was walking outside to get my daughter’s tricycle when I heard my son telling my husband that I was, “terrible”. I was hurt, but didn’t even know what to say to him, I was so shocked. I took my daughter and started walking towards the parking lot (I was taking her to ride her trike in) and my husband and son followed us down to the lot.
When my husband got down to the lot after him, I mentioned my son’s comment and my husband said to me, “If you signed up for this (parenting) to get accolades, you’ve got the wrong job.”He brought up the conversation that he had with his work friends about moms and dads, earlier in the week. Everyone agreed that dads seem to have it much easier. The moms seem to get a harder time from their kids. And it had nothing to do with if the mom worked out of the house or stayed home. How is it in your house?
It doesn’t matter how much I do for my kids (keeping them fed and wearing clean clothes, taking them to activities and playdates), when my husband is around, they seem to prefer him. I’d just rather not be thought of as “terrible”.
This post was inspired by a facebook status I saw last night, where the person wanted to post the negative things that happened as a parent, instead of just writing about the positive things our kids do.