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Home » Kids » Reviews » Featured » Allstate Foundation Purple Purse Empowers Financial Abuse Survivors

Allstate Foundation Purple Purse Empowers Financial Abuse Survivors

07/05/2017 by The Mama Maven

This post was sponsored by The Allstate Foundation as part of an Influencer Activation for Influence Central and all opinions expressed in my post are my own. 

We all pretend that our lives are perfect on social media, but that’s not often the whole picture. No one’s family is really Pinterest perfect. Life doesn’t happen in ideal Instagram snaps. I’ve gotten a little personal in the past, and I’m going to go there again. I didn’t have it easy growing up. My father was always very difficult and things were very rough at home. But there was another aspect I haven’t really talked about – the financial aspect of that. While I’ll go into it further in the post, there was verbal, emotional, and even some physical abuse. And something that I didn’t even realize until I was grown up – there was also financial abuse. My mother wasn’t able to support us on her own, even if she had actually gone through with divorcing him. I’m partnering up with Allstate Foundation Purple Purse to share my story and let you know that The Allstate Foundation Purple Purse drives fundraising for local, state and national nonprofits that provide crucial financial empowerment tools and resources to survivors of domestic violence. Allstate Foundation Purple Purse Financially Empowers Domestic Violence Survivors

While I am not going to talk about my parents’ relationship and what went down between them (because it’s not my story to tell), I will tell you about the financial aspect. One of the main reasons my mother couldn’t leave was because she couldn’t support us. There wasn’t a lot of money and he would have never given her money to live on with us.

My mother was a teacher and she worked full time before I was born and she started subbing when I was 6 weeks old. My father was a salesman (though not a very good one) and his jobs were never stable. I imagine he made money, but he wasn’t much of a saver. Both of my grandmothers took turns watching me while she subbed (she needed to help our family). I remember her getting calls in the morning and me getting shipped off to one of their houses. But it was the best she could do while she was around to be there for my brother and me.

While I can’t remember all the details, my mother went back to work full time when I was around 9 (my brother must have been around 5 1/2). I remember picking him up from kindergarten and walking him back to the babysitter, Estelle. Back in the early 80’s, teachers were making a lot less than they are currently. When things became worse with my father and they almost divorced (which I think was the next year or so), she couldn’t afford to support us on her own. She was worried that she couldn’t put a roof over our heads. There were other reasons why she didn’t leave that I don’t want to go into to, but later she told me that money was one of the reasons why she stayed. My grandfather had passed away in the mid-seventies and my grandmother (who had moved to a 1 bedroom in Florida by then) couldn’t have helped out financially. There was no place to go. I don’t think my father’s mother would have helped her, her own husband had passed away at that point. My mother didn’t have many choices. So we stayed.

My father didn’t help out at home or cook dinner for us, it was all my mom. She would take classes on the weekends so she could go up on the pay scale and she worked hard. Eventually (probably when I was in high school) she started making a lot more money. But by that time, my father had become a carpenter and often had long periods of time when he wasn’t working. He’s turning 80 this summer and while he doesn’t get very many jobs anymore, he will never be allowed to retire.

When I went to college, she urged me to get a teaching degree so I would have something to fall back on. There weren’t many options for my mother back then, but there are options now. Allstate Foundation Purple Purse aims to help end domestic violence and financial abuse through financial empowerment. Financial abuse isn’t something that’s really on the news, but it occurs in 99 percent of all domestic violence cases and is the No. 1 reason victims stay in or return to abusive relationships. 

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Allstate Foundation Purple Purse drives fundraising for local, state and national nonprofits that provide crucial financial empowerment tools and resources to survivors of domestic violence. I wish my mother could have turned to this when I was young. You can support these efforts by visiting PurplePurse.com and donating today. 

Allstate Foundation Purple Purse has just released this video to educate the public on the issue of financial abuse. This video will be short, compelling and focused on raising awareness of this too-often silent issue. The film depicts a social experiment and challenges viewers to question their position as bystanders: “If you knew, what would you do?”

Check out this powerful video:

For more info, go to http://purplepurse.com/

Purple Purse Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purplepurse
Purple Purse Twitter: https://twitter.com/PurplePurse

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  1. Elizabeth Miller says

    07/19/2017 at 9:20 AM

    This ia great program. I love when big companies put out there exactly what they support.

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  2. Kate says

    07/19/2017 at 6:33 AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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  3. lily@militaryfamof8 says

    07/10/2017 at 1:37 PM

    This foundation will really help a lot of people. I will surely share this to all of my friends and relatives. Thanks for sharing your story.

    Reply
  4. rochelle haynes says

    07/09/2017 at 6:14 AM

    Thanks for sharing sounds good

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  5. Audrey says

    07/09/2017 at 12:31 AM

    I’m almost crying. This is a powerful post. Sometimes these things are so subtle or “regular” that we don’t call them out.
    May you be blessed every minute of everyday for the rest of your life.

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    • The Mama Maven says

      07/09/2017 at 3:35 PM

      Audrey, thank you so much for your kind words. Now I’m really crying.

      Reply
  6. shelly peterson says

    07/08/2017 at 4:01 AM

    Thank you for sharing your story. I have not personally gone through any abuse but know many who have. It is nice to see that there is help for those who need it.

    Reply
  7. Esti Berkowitz says

    07/06/2017 at 11:33 PM

    I am just amazed by you, and would have never guessed that you came from this type of environment. You know what they say, we are given what we can handle. You can be very proud of how you are taking charge of your life in the financial area.

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  8. Mitch says

    07/06/2017 at 8:40 PM

    Thanks for sharing this personal story. I agree, all things are not pinterest perfect. I purposely keep it light on social media, the personal details are for close friends or important situations like this.
    Love ya,
    Mitch

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    • The Mama Maven says

      07/06/2017 at 9:56 PM

      Thanks, Mitch. I don’t share very details like this very often, but it was cathartic.

      Reply
  9. Lillie says

    07/06/2017 at 1:57 PM

    What a great cause. Ironically, my grandfather was a carpenter- he’s been very ill this week in the hospital. My grandmother ran away from him many years ago with her 6 children and got 3 jobs to support them.. she could have used a program like this to help her, too.. she was strong and still is to this day has her own apartment and did it all on her own..

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    • The Mama Maven says

      07/06/2017 at 3:21 PM

      Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry your grandfather is ill, but I am glad that your grandmother was strong enough to leave.

      Reply
  10. Adanna says

    07/06/2017 at 12:20 PM

    I know this must have been hard to share so hugs, my mom divorced my step-father when I was in my early teens and it was definitely an adjustment. She had a decent salary but we had to downgrade our lifestyle which I know was hard for her as it was for me as a teen. We made it work though because our home was so much more peaceful and loving. I’m glad that this program exists so women aren’t stuck in bad marriages.

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    • The Mama Maven says

      07/06/2017 at 12:26 PM

      Thank you, Adanna, for your support and sharing your own story!

      Reply
  11. Diane Sullivan says

    07/06/2017 at 11:34 AM

    Thanks for sharing a part of your life with us, Nancy. The AllState Foundation Purple Purse sounds like an amazing program that will definitely help a lot of people in need.

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  12. Isabel Kallman says

    07/06/2017 at 11:12 AM

    Thank you for sharing. Financial independence is so very important to women and society and HUMANITY.

    Reply
  13. reesa says

    07/06/2017 at 10:59 AM

    Nancy, thank you for being so personal with us. It’s not always to paint a picture that isn’t all rainbows. I applaude Allstate for this wonderful program.

    Reply
  14. Allison says

    07/06/2017 at 9:56 AM

    Thanks for sharing your story Nancy! I think it’s important that your mom urged you to have something of your own. financial abuse is so real and something that is so overlooked.

    Reply
  15. Melissa Velazquez says

    07/05/2017 at 9:57 AM

    Financial abuse is so real. This is such an amazing program. Thank you for getting the word out I will definitely have to share this with others!

    Reply

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